As we continue our look at the ISTJ personality type, we dive into Parenthood.
Comfort in Approach
As parents, people with a Logistician personality type are often the most comfortable. Their sense of responsibility and honor blends well with tradition. That tradition is to raise one’s children to be respected, contributing members of home and society. Logisticians do not take their roles as parents lightly. They will make it their work to ensure that this tradition is upheld to the highest standard.
This doesn’t always come easily for their children. Logisticians tend to be strict, with high standards and expectations. Logistician personalities establish stable, clearly structured environments for their children. They always have an eye on helping them to develop a sense of place in society. Logisticians expect the children to fulfill useful roles.
A clear sense of hierarchy is a part of developing this identity. Logisticians work just as much to ensure appropriate respect for authority as they do with family and societal structure.
All this loyalty, devotion and structure are of little use at times. Logisticians’ children need the warmth of emotional support as well. Logisticians can be sensitive towards those they care about in their own way. However, it’s hard for children to recognize this tough love for the love that it is. Often Logisticians need to rely on a more sensitive partner to fill this role. The partner can mediate between rational purpose and the more ethereal sense of emotional well-being.
Success Is Owed to Our Parents’ Moral and Intellectual Teachings
People with the Logistician personality type are strongly principled, valuing patience and hard work, qualities children often struggle with. Nevertheless, Logisticians expect their children to meet these standards and share these values, for their own good. This approach often bears its fruit in the long run. However, Logisticians must keep in mind that their approach creates natural barriers and distance. Often, that distance leaves their children wondering if they’re on the same team.
The Logistician can take this too far, or the children can be stubborn. A permanent state in the relationship can set in. Both Logistician parents and their children ultimately regret it. It is best for Logisticians to embrace and hold to their own values, but to also recognize that each person has their own goals. They should meet their children halfway in attaining theirs. Combining their natural devotion and purpose with this flexibility in support of their children’s own vision leads to a sense of mutual respect and accomplishment that any Logistician parent would be proud of.
Next up, we will look at potential career paths.